7/1/2019 1 Comment
3. Resistance is a real tangible thing that will try in every way imaginable to keep you blocked, but you can learn to work with it instead of against it.
There were so many times during my experiment that I was tired, grouchy, wanting to procrastinate, or just felt like I didn’t have what it took. I didn't know it at the beginning, but those were all faces of resistance, and I got intimately acquainted with each of them throughout the year.
Resistance it tricky in that it doesn’t like to be named, kind of like shame. It works by staying just out of awareness. Steven Pressfield’s work on resistance literally saved me. He helped me see just how serious it was to recognize resistance and not allow it to win. You do that by focusing on the process and what you can control and how you respond.
Resistance isn’t going away, but we can learn resistance resilience. Every time I experienced resistance, and did it anyway, it was so powerful. Resistance tried to tell me I didn’t have enough – energy, knowledge, time, skills – you name it and it let me know I was lacking. And yet, if I just started, if I showed up to what I had wanted to do imperfectly with just the energy, knowledge, time, and skills I had at that moment – magic happened every time.
That’s why it is so important for me to tell people, the pieces that you have are enough. Just take the next step. Put those two pieces together and see what happens. Everything builds, but we have to start building.
In fact, I’m grateful to resistance. Some of my most authentic, relatable, vulnerable work and creations have come about because I was feeling incredible resistance – body, mind, and soul – and yet because I was doing an everyday creation, I did it anyway.
Remember, when you practice resistance resilience, it is not that you won’t ever again end up in the fetal position crying, it is just that you won't stay there or let that be the end of the story. You will breathe and recognize resistance, and eventually, you will keep moving forward.
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Lee Ann Hilbrich, MA, LMFT, LPC, CDWF, RYT 200
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